Well, this f*cking sucks.

Online Therapy for Grief and Loss in Washington and 40+ PSYPACT States

LET’S NOT SUGARCOAT IT. GRIEF IS BRUTAL.

Indeed, this f*cking sucks and I am so sorry this happened to you. There’s no clever mindset shift, five-step plan, or quick fix that’s going to make a significant loss stop hurting.

Grief is a natural response to losing something that you love dearly, and sometimes the only honest answer is that it hurts because you loved so very deeply.

That doesn’t mean you’re doomed to feel this way forever. Over time, grief can become something you learn to carry with compassion. Therapy can offer a place to slow down, make sense of what’s happened, feel all the messy things you may have been trying desperately to avoid, and begin figuring out how to build a meaningful life after the loss.

meet dr. mueller, licensed clinical psychologist

A THERAPIST IN TACOMA WHO GETS THAT GRIEF ISN’T LINEAR

(and skips the corny jargon - no flowery language here)

I'm Dr. Annie Mueller, a clinical psychologist who works with adults navigating grief, trauma, life transitions, and all the chaotic parts of being human. My approach is warm, collaborative, and grounded in evidence-based therapy. I help people make sense of complicated emotions, adjust to life after loss, and figure their sh*t out when everything feels messy and confusing.

About Me

GRIEF ISN’T JUST ABOUT DEATH

Grief can follow the death of someone you love, but it can also come from divorce, disability, estrangement, infertility, illness, career changes, relationship endings, or the loss of a future you thought you were going to have.

I work with adults navigating many forms of grief, including:

ANXIETY

DEPRESSION

RELATIONSHIP ISSUES

CHRONIC ILLNESS

DISABILITY

PET LOSS

CAREGIVING

AMBIGUOUS LOSS

REPEATED LOSS

JOB OR CAREER LOSS

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Feel FAMILIAR?

MAYBE you’re…

Feeling numb, sad, overwhelmed, and angry… all at once.

Suffering from brain fog that just won’t lift.

struggling with guilt and replaying events from the past.

missing someone so intensely it feels physical.

wondering if you ever will feel like yourself again.

IMAGINE A FUTURE WHERE…

You can think about what happened without it completely knocking you off your feet.
You can reconnect with the parts of yourself that got buried under grief.
You can figure out who you are now, even if your life looks very different than you wanted or expected.
You’ve got a toolkit to manage distress when it happens.
You can talk about your loss without feeling like you have to protect everyone else from your feelings.
You can build a meaningful life without pretending the loss didn’t happen.

GRIEF THERAPY CAN HELP YOU:

Make space for the grief without rushing to “move on” or fix it.

There’s nothing that will permanently fix grief. Part of the work of healing is to slow down enough to actually feel the grief, rather than trying to numb out, avoid, outrun, or contain it.

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Untangle the complicated stuff and messy emotions.

This sh*t is hard, I know. Guilt, regret, anger, unimaginable pain… nothing about it is neat, tidy, or cute. Together, we will make space for all emotions, and help you make sense of how you are feeling.

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Find your footing again as you adjust to life after the loss.

Life after a loss can feel confusing; where do you go from here? Therapy can give you space to sort through what’s changed and what still matters to you. Life may never look the exact same as it once did. Therapy can help you recalibrate to the new normal.

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Learn to be a friend to yourself inside your grief.

Grief can bring a lot of self-judgment: I should be doing better. I should be over this by now. What’s wrong with me? Therapy can help you respond to yourself with more compassion and less criticism, especially on the days when grief feels particularly awful.

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You don’t have to carry this alone. There’s no winning in the grief Olympics.

I’m here to support you.

Let's connect

FAQs

COMMON QUESTIONS ABOUT GRIEF THERAPY ONLINE IN TACOMA

I provide virtual grief therapy for adults in Washington and across participating PSYPACT states. Because therapy is entirely online, you can meet with me from any private space. Comfy pants welcome — I’m in mine!

Grief therapy is a form of mental health support for people coping with the death of someone they love or another significant loss. It provides space to process emotions, adjust to life after the loss, and develop ways to move forward without minimizing or rushing the grieving process.
Grief therapy can help you make sense of complicated emotions, work through guilt or regret, adjust to changes in your identity and daily life, and find ways to live meaningfully alongside your loss. Therapy can also provide support when grief feels overwhelming, isolating, or difficult to navigate on your own.
There is no specific timeline or set of symptoms that determines when you “need” therapy for grief. You might consider grief therapy if you feel stuck, overwhelmed, isolated, consumed by guilt or anger, unable to reconnect with daily life, or simply want support navigating a significant loss.
There is no standard length of grief therapy. Some people benefit from a handful of sessions during a particularly difficult transition, while others want longer-term support. Therapy can be tailored to what you need rather than following a predetermined timeline for grieving.
There is no universal timeline for grief. Grief often changes over time rather than simply disappearing, and it can resurface unexpectedly around anniversaries, holidays, milestones, or other reminders of the loss. Healing does not require forgetting or “getting over” the person or thing you lost.
Complicated grief, sometimes called prolonged grief disorder, refers to persistent, intense grief that significantly interferes with daily functioning and remains difficult to adapt to over time. A mental health professional, such as myself, can help determine whether your experience may fit this pattern and whether specialized treatment could be helpful.
No. Grief can follow many kinds of losses, including divorce or relationship endings, infertility, illness or disability, job loss, changes in health, estrangement, and the loss of a hoped-for future. If something meaningful has been taken away or changed, grief may be part of your experience.
Yes. Grief therapy doesn't have to be a long-term commitment. Some people benefit from a handful of sessions focused on a specific loss or transition, while others want longer-term support as they navigate a major change. We'll talk about what you're hoping to get from therapy and figure out an approach that makes sense for you.
Yes. Grief and depression can overlap, and it isn't always easy to tell where one ends and the other begins. Grief is a natural response to loss, while depression can involve more persistent changes in mood, motivation, functioning, and how you experience yourself or the world. Therapy can help you understand what's going on and determine what kind of support would be most helpful.